Engagment

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

I would really appreciate a reply when time permits inshallah. I sat with a brother that is interested in marrying me. I felt disappointed and bad. Also, I had no feelings or enthusiasm to accept the brother.  Mashallah he has excellent Deen and character. Everyone that knows him speaks highly of him. I guess my question is, how do you know you want to marry that person? Please answer this question inshallah. it is a tough one to find an answer to. are you just sure? is there a certain feeling? What if you just don't feel anything for the person at all? [I am not speaking of desire.] Should you marry that person even if you don't feel enthusiastic about marrying them? Also, I only sat with the brother once. Could my lack of enthusiasm be do to this fact?

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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

I was recently informed of this site, ma'shallah. What is the correct way to approach a sister whom you intend to marry ? I've known this sister my entire life, in the same regard as my own blood sister and recently it was brought to my attention that she would be a perfect candidate for marriage. I believe she respects me, but I am unsure if she can accept me as her spouse. How can I know ? And what is the correct, halal way to approach ? I have nothing but the best intentions, yet my entire life I always felt I would marry her, yet out of respect I have never approached. My father and aunt [my mother has passed, allah yarham ha] are very fond of her and encourage me to pursue her, since they know her and her family extremly well.

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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

I live in the US alone my parents back in my country resently one muslim brother proposed me marriage, but the problem is thet he also doesn't have anyone in the US So, he sais that we should know each other before marriage or engagement, and he insists on talking to me. I heared that wile seeing each other the third person from the family should be there, or at least the third person should be there. is that true? And what if I talk to him alone, would it be considering zina?

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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Salam,I just recently had my Nikkah this past June. But the actual Rukhsati [giving away of the bride] will not take place until March because my husband is studying in a different state. When he comes and visits my parents get very upset if I spend too much time with him.

They say it is inappropriate.

They are constantly watching what we do.

They get upset if I go out with him and come home late. My question is, What does Islam have to say about parent's interfering in their child's marriage? I respect my parents but yet they do not seem to repect my privacy? Am I being unreasonable? Any information that you can give on this matter will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

In the Name of God Most Gracious and Merciful. Salam elkum. First I would really like to commend you on the substantial information you have provided to the public. May God reward you all on your efforts. I do realize that every single question cannot be answered directly. However, I have done a lot of research on this matter and still I have come up with no answers to my question. What makes it even more difficult is the lack of knowledge of Islam from my parents perspective. I was born in Canada and one of the very few young teenage girls fighting to learn more about Islam. Unfortunatly, there is still a lot I do not know about our religion, yet I work at it every day. Getting down to my problem, I am 19 years old and just got engaged to a Lebanese Muslim fellow. After getting engaged to this person I found out that in the past he has been with other girls and intimate relationships, before marriage. of course, I realize that in our religon that is very wrong. Now I am left with the decision of whether to go ahead and get married to this person or not. I personally think that I shouldn't be with a person who has done such things while my family says forgive and forget.. However, I would like your opinion on this matter. is it ideal and acceptable for someone like myself to marry a person of this nature even if it was his past. Thank you so much for your time . I would appreciate it if you had a chance to reply it would fill up so many unanswered questions but of course I fully understand if you cannot do so . it is very difficult for me to learn more about Islam sometimes books don't fully answer my questions. Thanks again kindly for your time .

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Shaykh ‘Abd al-Kareem al-Khudayr.

Although it may not be respectful, is there anything wrong in asking a future wife-to-be whether she is a virgin or not?

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Shaykh al-Waleed al-Faryaan

I would like to know if we are allow to see many women for the purpose of marriage or do we have to see them one by one I mean if it's not OK with the first one only I can go to see the second one.

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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

I have a young friend who had excepted the Islamic faith some time ago. Prior to excepting his new Faith he was sexually active with his girlfriend. After excepting his new Faith he would masterbate to relieve him of his sexual tensions. I advised him that masturbating was forbidden as well. Now he is engaged to be married in a couple of years and him and his Fiance have sex and masterbate for each other.

The reason for the delay in the marriage is that they are financially unstable at this point. He wants to know if masterbation and intercourse is permisble under these circumstances and if they are not what can he do to remedy this?

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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Is it permissible for a female to display her hair infront of her fiance before the Niqah?

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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

I am a Muslimah, age XXX, from XXX. I accepted Islam 8 years ago when I was 16, Alhamdu lillah. For all of those years, I wanted so much to be a Muslim wife and mother, but since I live in a very small Muslim community [XXX] , this did not happen. A month ago I sent out my resume to find work in an Islamic school in a large Islamic community.

The imam of an Islamic center in Florida left several messages on my answering machine. Days later, a brother called from the same masjid and said that he had lived in America for 10 years [he is originally from Saudi Arabia] and was looking for a wife. He is over thirty. He said that he wanted to marry me after he read my resume. [The imam gave him my resume since he knew he was looking for a wife.I was a college student of Islamic Studies. I live with my mother who is a Muslim, but I have no male Muslim relatives. I do not know any Muslims in Florida either. This brother has continued to call me and talk to me while my mother is nearby and he also spoke with my mother and told her that he wanted her permission to marry me. I want very much to get married in Sha' Allah, but I am very worried. I feel very vulnerable because I do not have a Muslim male relative who can check this brother out. Sadly I have heard of brothers who come to America and date women for years, or are involved in other bad activities. I am worried about this. He has talked a lot about his love for Islam and da'wah. He says he is so happy that I have a Muslim mother and he wants me to support me if we get married and possibly move to Saudi Arabia. But I was worried also because he said that he has had a beard most of the time, but has on occasion shaved it off. This concerns me because I know keeping the beard is important and is Sunnah.

The most important quality for me in a husband is both his belief and practice of Islam. Books I have read on Islamic marriage say that you will never find a perfect spouse, but to look for their religiousness. How do I know if this brother is good or not? How do I know if he is really committed to islam? What should I look for? Please help, in Sha' Allah.   I just submitted a question and wanted to add something extra: the brother who wants to marry me has been calling me every day, sometimes twice a day. Also, he has never seen me either in person or in photograph, but still seems certain he wants to marry me.